There To Protect

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“Racism has been rampant for hundreds of years, it’s just that in this century people have camera phones to video it. It’s absolutely disgusting that you get mistreated because of the color of your skin. You would think that those that are there to protect us, would protect.”

Niall Horan

Mother

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Every mother of every race should have felt that. If you are a mother and you are silent about this, f*ck you. I said what I said and we hear your silence!”

Taraji P. Henson, while sharing a quote about how George Floyd called for his mother while being brutally pinned to the ground.

Time Magazine cover by Titus Kaphar

It’s A Trick

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You remind me…you remind me
that it’s a trick to know you.
I don’t even know
how I fell in love with you.
Was it your eyes, or was it your clothes?
Was the way you greeted me when the sun rolls?
The sun rolls.

Pleasin’ Each Other sung by Bonnie Raitt from her 1975 album Home Plate

People We Love

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“The news of the day constantly provides an unconscious reminder that we are all mortal. This can result in negative thought patterns — harsher judgments, blaming the victim, greediness and us-versus-them thinking. But if we consciously reflect on our own death, none of this matters. What really matters is the people we love and helping people.” — Daniel Goleman

First Steps, after Millet Vincent van Gogh

Service To Others

“Together our fundamental worth is intrinsic. It’s based on kindness, compassion and generosity, the ability to give and receive love. Service to others has a powerful effect on how we feel about ourselves as well as on how it makes others feel. There are many opportunities to serve, to switch our focus from ourselves to others.” — Dr. Vivek H. Murthy

The Helping Hand, Emile Renouf

https://digitalcollections.nypl.org/items/510d47d9-9fa6-a3d9-e040-e00a18064a99

What Does It Mean To Me?

“Doing what’s meaningful — acting on what really matters to a person — is the antidote to burnout…Face what’s happening. What does it mean to me? What really matters to me now? Is there a way I can act upon what’s meaningful to me?” — Daniel Goleman

Children of migratory Mexican field workers. The older one helps tie carrots in the field. Coachella Valley, California. Photograph by Dorothea Lange

https://digitalcollections.nypl.org/items/97c9b2b0-8843-0136-77d4-7de99b31c5cb

Ripe Opportunity

“The stay-at-home edict has pushed so many of us into an external motivation mode that is making us face something that feels like lethargy and meaninglessness…At the same time it’s a ripe opportunity to think about what really matters to us…Doing what’s meaningful — acting on what really matters to a person — is the antidote to burnout…Face what’s happening. What does it mean to me? What really matters to me now? Is there a way I can act upon what’s meaningful to me?” — Daniel Goleman

Calipatria, Imperial Valley, In Farm Security Administration (FSA) emergency migratory labor camp. Daughter of ex-tenant farmers on thirds and fourths in cotton. Had fifty dollars when set out … Photo by Dorothea Lange 1939

https://digitalcollections.nypl.org/items/3a598360-9415-0136-f078-7fd4677b7b2b

50 Questions

I culled these questions together from various places.

Have fun!

50 QUESTIONS APRIL 2020 BY CRITIC HOUSEWIFE
1 IF YOU COULD HAVE DINNER WITH A PERSON WHO IS DEAD OR ALIVE, WHO WOULD IT BE?
2 WHAT IS THE ONE SKILL THAT YOU DON’T HAVE, THAT YOU WISH YOU HAD?
3 IF MONEY WAS NO OBJECT, AND YOU COULD LIVE ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD, WHERE WOULD THAT BE?
4 WHAT IS THE DUMBEST THING YOU HAVE EVER DONE?
5 WHAT’S THE BEST GIFT YOU HAVE EVER BEEN GIVEN?
6 WHAT KEEPS YOU FROM DOING THE THINGS YOU REALLY WANT TO DO?
7 WHAT’S SOMETHING YOU ABSOLUTELY KNOW TO BE TRUE?
8 WHEN DO YOU OVERREACT?
9 WHAT IS YOUR PERFECT DAY?
10 IF YOU COULD PICK ONE YEAR TO COMPLETELY REMOVE FROM YOUR LIFE, WHAT YEAR WOULD IT BE, AND WHY?
11 WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE COLOR?
12 WHAT ARE YOUR THREE FAVORITE BANDS?
13 WHO ARE YOUR THREE FAVORITE SINGERS?
14 WHAT ARE YOUR THREE FAVORITES TYPES OF MUSIC?
15 WHAT ARE YOUR THREE FAVORITE FOODS?
16 WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST REGRET RE SOMETHING THAT YOU COULD HAVE DONE, BUT DID NOT?
17 WHAT ARE YOUR THREE FAVORITE MOVIES?
18 IF YOU COULD HAVE ANYTHING MATERIALISTIC, WHAT WOULD THEY BE? LIST THREE.
19 WHO ARE THREE FAMOUS PEOPLE YOU HAVE MET WHO IMPRESSED YOU?
20 DO YOU BELIEVE IN ALIENS?
21 WHEN YOU WERE YOUNGER, WHAT DO YOU WISH YOU HAD KNOWN ABOUT SPENDING MONEY?
22 WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE FAMOUS? IN WHAT WAY?
23 BEFORE MAKING A PHONE CALL, DO YOU EVER REHEARSE WHAT YOU’RE GOING TO SAY?
24 WHEN DID YOU LAST SING TO YOURSELF? TO SOMEONE ELSE?
25 WHAT SMELLS MAKE YOU HAPPY?
26 WHAT DO YOU LIKE BEST ABOUT YOUR HOUSE OR APARTMENT?
27 IF A CRYSTAL BALL COULD TELL YOU THE TRUTH ABOUT YOURSELF, YOUR LIFE, YOUR FUTURE OR ANYTHING ELSE, WOULD YOU WANT TO KNOW?
28 IS THERE SOMETHING YOU HAVE DREAMT OF DOING FOR A LONG TIME? WHY HAVEN’T YOU DONE IT?
29 WHAT ARE THE THREE GREATEST ACCOMPLISHMENTS OF YOUR LIFE?
30 WHAT DO YOU VALUE MOST IN A FRIENDSHIP?
31 WHAT ARE YOUR THREE LEAST FAVORITE HOUSE CHORES?
32 IF YOU KNEW THAT IN ONE YEAR YOU WOULD DIE SUDDENLY, WOULD YOU CHANGE ANYTHING ABOUT THE WAY YOU ARE NOW LIVING? WHAT WOULD YOU CHANGE?
33 WHAT IS THE CRAZIEST THING YOU HAVE SEEN SOMEONE DO AT YOUR WORKPLACE?
34 WHAT WAS YOUR MOST EMBARRASSING MOMENT?
35 WHEN HAVE YOU FELT THE MOST CHALLENGED?
36 NAME THREE COUNTRIES YOU WOULD LIKE TO TRAVEL TO, EVEN IF YOU HAVE BEEN TO THEM BEFORE.
37 WRITE 5-10 OF THE NICEST THINGS THAT PEOPLE HAVE DONE FOR YOU.
38 WHAT FOREIGN LANGUAGES WOULD YOU LIKE TO MASTER?
39 WHAT ARE YOUR THREE FAVORITE DESSERTS?
40 WHAT ARE YOUR THREE FAVORITE WAYS TO EXERCISE?
41 DESCRIBE YOURSELF IN THREE WORDS.
42 WHAT IS YOUR GREATEST FEAR?
43 WHAT IS THE TRAIT YOU DEPLORE IN OTHERS?
44 WHAT IS YOUR GREATEST EXTRAVAGANCE?
45 WHEN AND WHERE WERE YOU HAPPIEST?
46 WHO ARE YOUR THREE FAVORITE ARTISTS?
47 WHAT ARE YOUR THREE FAVORITE FICTION BOOKS?
48 WHAT ARE YOUR THREE FAVORITE NON-FICTION BOOKS?
49 WHO ARE YOUR THREE HEROES?
50 WHAT ARE THE THREE MOST BEAUTIFUL THINGS IN NATURE?

Own It

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“Take whatever weird little opportunity you can find and own it.”

Tara Schuster, author of Buy Yourself the Fucking Lilies

I read an article by Tara and my interpretation about the article is this: If you don’t have much to do when you start a new job, or you don’t feel like you are qualified, how can you stay busy, improve things, or show your worth? “Take whatever weird little opportunity you can find and own it…Best case scenario: someone cool will notice. Worst case? You’ll know and take pride, even if the task sucks.”

We can apply this to NOW in our personal lives. Take the time to call someone who you haven’t spoken to in awhile and get caught up. Cuz some of us certainly have the time.

When They Were Lost

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“I add my own love to the history of people who have loved beautiful things, and looked out for them, and pulled them from the fire, and sought them when they were lost, and tried to preserve them and save them while passing them along literally from hand to hand, singing out brilliantly from the wreck of time to the next generation of lovers, and the next.”

From the book The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt

Painting by Edward Hopper Morning Sun 1952